10 Tips to Help you Fall in Love with Your Home (Again)

It’s easy to become disenchanted with your home, but it doesn’t have to be that way! Today we’re sharing ten tips that will help you fall in love with your home all over again (and most of them are free!)

roses in bucket on kitchen counter in French farmhouse white kitchen

No matter who you are or where you live, there usually comes a time that you’re tired of your home. It can start to feel uninspiring. Maybe you never loved your home, even when it was new. Or maybe you did love it originally, but it isn’t filling your needs anymore, or has started to feel dated. 

If you’ve felt any or all of these emotions, I’m right there with you. We’ve never been able to renovate or redecorate the way I’ve wanted to because we’ve done everything in stages. Which has resulted in nothing ever feeling completely finished. In fact, by the time I’m actually done, I’ll need to start all over again since the first projects were so long ago! 

But since I’m someone who loves home and all that it encompasses, I wanted to change that. 

French farmhouse living room

That’s why today I’m sharing ten ways that will help you fall in love with your home again. As with all relationships, the one you have with your home can start to fizzle. And just like a marriage or relationship with a partner, you need to nurture this one to maintain it!

These ten tips are actionable things you can do, today, to start loving your home – and most of them are free!


1. Get Rid of Anything that Isn’t Bringing you Joy

gorgeous French country farmhouse living room shelf decor

Marie Kondo was onto something when she coined that phrase “Does this spark joy?” And I’m here to say, nothing will have more of an effect on the way you feel about your home than getting rid of anything and everything you don’t absolutely love. 

When you allow things in your home that that don’t bring joy, you increase the odds that you’re not going to love your home. So take a look around. Are there things taking up space in your home right now that no longer serve you? Are there items that are ‘just ok’ that are still hanging around? Are there items that are broken, missing parts, or just not being used? All of these need to go.

Believe me, you will feel so much better once they’re gone! And when I say ‘get rid of’, I don’t mean throw away (unless they are broken). Donate, sell, give to a friend. Someone else will probably love to have your castoffs! 


2. Shop your Home

gorgeous French European living room with blue floral pillows and shelf decor

Learn to shop your home! This is one of the easiest and best ways to give your home a little refresh for free. If you rotate out your accessories (only ones you love, of course 😉 ), they feel fresher and newer when they come back in.

Once when my children were little I read an article that advised doing that with children’s toys. Since kids today have so much, it’s better to rotate them and I did that for years, to great success. And the same can be done with decor!

I like to change things out seasonally, switching out pillows, throws, candles, and other decor. But you can do it every month or every quarter, whatever works for you. You’ll be surprised how fun it is to bring out things you love and haven’t seen in awhile (they’re like old friends!)


3. Rearrange the Furniture 

gorgeous French farmhouse living room with coffee table sofas and armchairs

Just like changing out accessories and decor, rearranging furniture can help you see your home with new eyes. Whether you change up the arrangement within a room, or switch things from one room to another, it can be a real boost for the space.

Though I’d never categorize my mom as a person who loved home decor, this was one she and my dad got right. I remember they would rearrange their bedroom furniture every year or so. And they did the same with the living room. And even as a kid, it seemed like a whole new space!

So try a different arrangement around the fireplace. Or see if that side table could actually work as a nightstand, or vice versa. You’ll be surprised how much it can make you love your home again, and you won’t have spent a dime!


4. Declutter 

French farmhouse European family room with builtins and blue floral pillows

This may seem self-evident, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t do this!! Now I love organizing closets and drawers as much as the next person, but in this case I’m talking about visual clutter.

Everything under the sun on the kitchen counters. Papers, mail, and charging cords laying around on the coffee table. All of this visual clutter creates stress. And who can love a space that’s making you stressed? So do a deep clean and declutter every single space in your home, putting things away as you go.

Once your space is tidy, it’s time to take a photo. With a quick screenshot you can then evaluate if you have too much decor, which is another source of clutter. Take a look at homes you admire on Pinterest or Instagram, and use a critical eye to see if you have more or less decor than your favorites.

You can then clear out and pare down if you have too much. Then you can either donate those items, or better yet, use them in your accessory rotation plan from #2! (You can find more decluttering ideas in this post).


5. Add Flowers & Plants 

gorgeous French inspired entryway with flowers in vase

It’s amazing what flowers and/or plants can do for a space! Whether you put fresh flowers on your entryway table each week, plop a plant in a pretty pot on the kitchen counter, or add an indoor tree to an empty corner, any of these will help you fall in love with your home.

By bringing in nature everything feels fresher and prettier. Our brains are primed to respond to the greenery, and it literally makes a room feel more alive.

I usually prefer fresh flowers and live plants, but sometimes that isn’t possible. If you don’t want to spend money on fresh flowers every week or don’t have time to maintain live plants, high quality faux can still do the job. (For more tips on houseplants, check out this post).


6. Use the Rooms You Don’t Normally Use

French inspired living room with warm neutrals sofa armchair and marble coffee table

For many people, a formal living or dining room is unused space. If that’s the case, re-think how you use those spaces. Could you sit and read in the living room rather than the family room? Could you work or pay bills at the dining room table for a change?

For us, the living room is our most underused space but I’ve been trying to change that. Lately I’ve been having my afternoon latte in there. Or I’ll sit by the fire and read.

Any space that you have that you don’t normally spend time in, change that. Even if it’s just sitting and enjoying that guest room (that’s refreshingly empty and clean!), it will help you to appreciate all the spaces in your home.



7. Find Mementos or Photos you Love and Display Them

framed photos in French farmhouse office with grey paint and wainscoting

Once you’ve tidied, cleaned, and decluttered your spaces, take a look and see if there is something meaningful and personal in each room. If not, gather some mementos or photos that remind you of a special memory or trip, and have those framed.

This could be the obvious like framed photos of your favorite family vacation. But it could also be something unique. Try framing an antique christening gown, your father’s old watch, or the key to your first home. The possibilities are endless. 

I’m a firm believer that your home should be a reflection of who you are. And if every space has something magical and memorable in it, it will create feelings of warmth and happiness when you’re in those spaces. 


8. Entertain More 

gorgeous outdoor living space with farmhouse table and wicker chairs with string lights

I have friends who say they ‘hate’ entertaining. It’s too much work, too stressful, or they don’t cook. But here’s the thing. The more memories you make in your home, the more you’ll love it.

Imagine if every time you walked by your dining room you remembered a fun night spent there. Or when you notice the water ring on the table it takes you back to a fun night of non-stop laughter. 

It doesn’t have to be fancy, and you don’t even have to cook! Have some girlfriends over for a glass of wine or coffee. Get some takeout and play games with your favorite couples. Fill your home with friends and family to create wonderful memories, and to make you fall in love with your home again.


9. Add Small Luxuries 

gorgeous neutral bedding with shade and curtains

Simple luxuries are a wonderful way to elevate your everyday. We’re not talking about breaking the bank or blowing your budget, but rather spending a little more on some of life’s basics. It’s amazing how much better it feels crawling into nicer sheets every night. Or slathering on a richer lotion. Or using a hand soap with a wonderful, lasting scent.

Picking a few little luxuries to splurge on will make you feel more special, and bring pleasure to everyday activities. Whether you splurge on high-quality sheets or towels, invest in a pricey-but-delicious scented candle, or bring home fresh flowers every week, these indulgences will bring beauty and pleasure to your home, and your life. (Find more ideas on 7 Things to Make Your Kitchen & Bathrooms More Beautiful).


10. Focus on the Positive

pretty lilacs in white pitcher in French farmhouse kitchen dining area windows and farmhouse table

This one is a little harder I know, but mindset really is everything. Thinking about the positives of your home rather than the things you don’t love works much like a gratitude practice. Once you start to focus on the positive rather than the negative, it becomes a belief. It reinforces those things you love, while de-emphasizing those you don’t. 

It can even help to make a list of the things you do love about your home. Or write a love letter to her. Once you reframe the way you think about your home, you’ll grow to fall in love with your home again. 🙂

If you’re willing to do and/or spend a little more, here are a few additional ideas:

• Paint a room a fresh color (never underestimate the power of paint!)
• Strip or paint a piece of furniture you don’t love 
• Add a few new throw pillows or an area rug in a new color
• Finally tackle that house project or DIY that’s on your list
• Change out the bathroom or kitchen hardware
• Slipcover a sofa you don’t love
• Add peel-n-stick wallpaper to a room or wall
• Create a spa in your own bathroom. Add scented salts in a pretty jar, flowers, and candles. 
• Hide all the ‘uglies’, corral extension cords, cables, and the like with cable ties or gadgets from Amazon (they have lots of ways to hide them!)
• Touch up all the marks on the walls – it’s amazing how much cleaner it will look!
• Clean the windows until they sparkle




You can shop more of my home below:

Living Room

Dining Room


Primary Bedroom


10 Tips to Help you Fall in Love with Your Home graphic on Maison de Cinq


If you enjoyed this post, be sure to check out more decorating tips and ideas below: 

Decorating with Neutrals – 5 Tips for Success 

7 Tips for Elevating Your Kitchen

20 Essential Decorating Measurements You Need to Know




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  1. Barbara at Mantel and Table says:

    Fabulous ideas Sheila – I’m going to go move some furniture around right now! Thanks for all the great suggestions, and some peeks at your beautiful home!

    1. yay, love that Barbara!

      Thanks for stopping by my friend! 🙂


  2. This was just the post I needed this day. Clutter is making me crazy, so today I’m going to start one room at a time until I’m done. Thank you your ideas have inspired me to do it.

  3. Janeintherain says:

    Thank you, Sheila. I found this post to be particularly inspiring. At this point in my life my home can certainly use an update but I hadn’t realized it could be possible without spending money. Now I am feeling encouraged to move forward. This was just what I needed to read this morning. Your post is my first item on my list of gratitudes❣️

    1. Aww thank you Jane – that seriously makes my heart so happy!! I sincerely hope that some of these ideas resonate and help you to love and appreciate your home again.

      You made my day! 🙂


  4. I look forward to all of your posts Sheila. Your house is beautiful and an inspiration to me when I’m decorating.

    1. Aww thank you Karen – I so appreciate that!


  5. These are all such great suggestions, especially at this time of year, when things can feel pretty drab. My daughter has a very generic apartment, but buys fresh flowers every week, and I’ve started doing that too, just from the grocery store, but a great spirit lifter! Thanks!

    1. Good for her! I didn’t really do that until I was well into my 40’s, but wow, it does help doesn’t it?! Thanks so much for your kind words and for stopping by Kim!